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Saturday, February 23, 2019

Gratitude and a Common Goal

There are few - well maybe a lot more than few -  words to express how I have felt tonight in the company of the many colleagues gathered at the Fernwood Inn to honour me. Each one of them I worked with in some capacity. I could not have had such a successful end to my addictions nursing career without each and every one of you. A truly multidisciplinary team. Each one of us with different types and levels of education. As teams on different shifts and wild schedules we have shared one common goal - caring for marginalized and stigmatized individuals that have been broken by life long before we ever met them.  

The beautiful rocking chair in the picture accompanying this blog is only one of the lovely gifts I received this evening. To me, this rocking chair does not suggest that resting on my laurels is all I will do in retirement. It does suggest that I plant seeds that will flower and only rest if I need a good sit down. 

Thank you to all Withdrawal Management Services staff for an absolutely lovely evening and for welcoming my family members so beautifully. I will miss working with you, my wonderful team members, but will keep in touch with you. You will hear from me soon.

“We must find time to stop and thank the people
 who make a difference in our lives.”
~ John F. Kennedy

Friday, February 22, 2019

Basically





Tossing and turning in the midst of
a new day challenges 
a reach for the basics of life
routines familiar and real
habits heathy & kind to sight and sound.

Grounding past experience, 
future expectations ~ 
each moment a new experience ~ while enjoying a ‘sister visit’ surrounded by story, memory and good food.

“Instincts and fundamentals take over sometimes.”
 ~ Alex Smith

Wednesday, February 20, 2019

Book Review: LESS by Andrew Sean Greer

In a most unusual fashion, I read Pulitzer Prize winner LESS by Andrew Greer twice, and before our book club met yesterday. Initially, I played mind games with myself despite being intrigued by the concept of this novel. My second read, having ushered myself out of my mind, I enjoyed the humour and satire in the story following Arthur Less, a failed (according to Arthur) writer. While I was tempted to feel sorry for Arthur Less because his apparent inability to function in life, I found that was doing a disservice to himself. More than self-pity, he really seemed not to have accepted himself as a worthy human being. From the time he was a boy, when his father tried to ‘make a man’ of his son until, years later, his lover of nine years leaves him for another man, Arthur has seen himself in a rather shallow light. To avoid the pending marriage of his lover, he gathers any invitation he’s ever received to speak or teach, packs his bags and travels from New York across Europe in an effort to escape his life and ends back at home. The narrator of this humorous, but very real story, was obvious to many in my book group and in online reviews. Like Arthur, I just didn’t get it and it was revealed towards the end of the book. Another issue that occupied Arthur’s thoughts, besides the loss of his lover and his belief that he was failure as an author, was the fear of aging. Arthur's story is a love story and a coming of age story, pardon the pun. Laugh out loud scenes sparkle throughout this story. Humour so sly that I would almost miss it. Could it be because I don’t always get sly humour until I turn the page?

Always needing to see a philosophical point to a story, I was rewarded by Andrew Greer’s gentle, and humorous, description of the life of one gay man, living on the edge of the gay culture while at the same time being part of it. 

“But what I am trying to tell you (and I only have a moment), 
what I have been trying to tell you this whole time, 
is that from where I sit, the story of Arthur Less 
is not so bad. Because it is also mine.”
~ Andrew Sean Greer, LESS

Title: LESS
Author: Andrew Sean Greer
Copyright: 2017
Hardcover - 2017;
Paperback edition May 2018
Type: Novel 
Publisher: Hatchett Book Group, Inc.
ISBN: 978-0-316-31612-5 (hc)
ISBN: 978-0-316-31613-2 (pb)
Book design:  Sean Ford
Printed in the United States of America

Tuesday, February 19, 2019

Retirement Plans

So many have asked me about my retirement plans. Anything big? A trip? Something exciting? My mind draws a blank with each question. The question has remained as though stamped indelibly somewhere in my brain. Maybe more like a flashing neon light that fades while daylight fades into dark of night. In the morning, the flashing neon light resumes its insistent reminder that I’d better have a plan. Most of my life plans have been more like rough sketches until it’s time to do something. Well, here I am, Day 3 of Retirement. Technically still employed but on vacation days for a couple of weeks, before an ‘official’ retirement. The last three days have been punctuated happily with surprises and many congratulations from family and friends from near and far ~ some very far. In the last many years I served the communities where I’ve lived, both employed and volunteering. Both happily and just plain grumpy about different situations. Time at home when the world has gone quiet brings up the questions of plans, what to do next, with whom and how often. Not necessarily with excitement or the motivation to do anything about it.

Have I answered the questions: Anything big?  A trip? Something exciting? Quite frankly, it feels as though I have, but in my own way. 

Anything big: creating life boundaries. Not with brick walls or with locked doors, but flexible boundaries between joy and frustration. Learning a new way to live, not retiring (pun not intended) to the couch and staring blankly out the window. That seems pretty big to me. 

A trip: I’ve not really explored Victoria, or the Gulf Islands and then there are trips to visit family and friends ~ some not seen for many years. So it’s not a trip - it’s plural ‘trips’. When those will take place - no plans yet. I do foresee trip or trips will involve some train travel though.

Something exciting: It really all seems exciting to me because much of it may just involve travel and new experiences!

My own ideas:  First of all writing is high on that list. A big, big thank you to all that have read my blog over the last many years. You have all been party to this part of my retirement plan. Writing has long been pivotal to my retirement plans. I began writing because I wanted to get all my thoughts out of my head where they were in constant battle as to who or what was most important. I have worked, daily, on developing a writing practice that has found its own rhythm. A rhythm I can and do take anywhere.

Next on the list ~ I want to learn lessons of all kinds ~ Writing, cooking, driving, sewing and anything else that comes along. Again it seems as though short, and maybe extended, trips may be involved. 

And finally ~ or perhaps on a daily basis, emptying boxes, closets and cupboards to see what has been stored for decades. Changing the look of my wardrobe ~ which has been tailored to my nursing shifts. This is a whole new shift full of creativity, imagination and expansion. But no pressure ~ if life throws me a curve ball I just may have to learn to play hard ball.

“Without leaps of imagination or dreaming, we lose the excitement 
of possibilities. Dreaming, after all is a form of planning.”
~ Gloria Steinem

Monday, February 18, 2019

Up Above

Up Above

Cliff hadn’t done this for awhile but decided it was time. Long denim-ed legs climbed up in the park high enough for what he wanted to do. Above the city, he perched on a grassy knoll, purple and gold wild flowers nodding in the evening air. A soft grey rolling cloud bank stretched across the horizon hiding distant mountain peaks. Off to the west pink and gold threads gilded the far edges of the mist. Sitting high up watching such a peaceful scene, he felt as distant as the vanished snow covered mountain tops. Cool moist air mussed curly black hair that Cliff finger-combed from his face. Lone gulls traced the cliff edges waiting for ocean currents to carry them onward. Letting a great sigh escape into the cool air, Cliff rested in the silence above the city.

“……..you can listen to silence and learn from it. 
It has a quality and dimension all it’s own.”
~ Chaim Potok, The Chosen

Sunday, February 17, 2019

Magician's Circle





Breakfast out with a friend 
started this new day ~
awake from my nap
with energy restored
as though I had fallen

through a magician’s circle into 
The Land of Retired Folks
without a clear map
sleepy thoughts toss and turn…

A new journey? 
Drawing my own map sounds like fun
tracing out new paths and roads to travel

The next chapter?
I’ll fill each page with new experiences
tailored to whimsy, plans and beliefs.

Taking a leap?
Finding new ways to be of service
to others in the newness of community.

“Life is a concept, like the “universe”, that expands 
as soon as we reach what we think is its edge.”
~ Kamand Kojouri